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This is the early morning of the day before my twentieth birthday. My family is asleep, but I lie in bed contemplating life, preparing a blessing for my birthday tomorrow. Honestly, in the past, birthdays were just casual occasions for making wishes. If I were Japanese, turning twenty would mark my coming of age and require a special celebration. For some reason, I suddenly thought that it should be something extraordinary.
Let's divide life into decades. I have completed two stages in the past ten years. In the previous decade, I moved from elementary to middle school, then to university. I gained some skills, knowledge, personal development, social relationships, and experiences. Now, as I turn twenty, I imagine what will happen to me in the next ten years. I will take my studies and work seriously. I will graduate from university, become independent, find a job. Will I leave my hometown? Will I leave my parents and the people I know? Will I meet someone special? Will I have good relationships with others? Will I maintain my current ideals, or will I simply go with the flow? I have to seriously reflect on what kind of person I want to be and how to become that person. So, rather than just a birthday wish, perhaps some advice would be more appropriate...
In the coming decade, you should:
In dealing with matters:
1. Abandon childishness and become a more mature person.
2. Complete tasks that need to be done as soon as possible, prioritize important matters.
3. Focus on doing what needs to be done before doing what you want.
4. Be pragmatic and observe silently; don't speak too much or seek attention.
5. Abandon laziness and cherish time.
6. Improve efficiency and use saved time for self-correction, rather than working too slowly and affecting your mindset.
7. Approach tasks with diligence and give your best effort, so you won't have regrets in the future.
8. Seek guidance from teachers when faced with things you don't understand, rather than leaving yourself ignorant.
9. Make progress step by step, without rushing.
10. Patienly wait for destiny while carefully observing opportunities.
11. Be cautious in your actions, self-reflect, and seek improvement.
12. Avoid doing despicable things. If you hesitate to openly acknowledge it, it's best not to do it.
13. Refrain from harming others and instead engage in actions that benefit people.
14. Maintain moderation and discipline in your actions.
15. Read more and engage in fewer futile activities.
16. Do things that are useful and meaningful.
17. Learn to be indifferent to things that make no difference.
In dealing with others:
1. Surround yourself with wise individuals and avoid spending too much time with ignorant people.
2. Associate more with virtuous individuals and fewer with fake "gentlemen."
3. If you have a superior, serve them wholeheartedly until they no longer need you; if you have subordinates, treat them with kindness and morality until they part ways with you.
4. Always be open and sincere with people, for finding one true friend is better than countless so-called friends.
5. Be strict with yourself and kind to others.
6. Focus on improving yourself before criticizing others.
7. Speak and act with caution.
8. Treat others with love, always be compassionate, fair, inclusive, and understanding.
9. Give others and yourself opportunities.
10. Show understanding and compassion toward others and yourself when faced with powerlessness, rather than sheer contempt and exclusion.
11. Don't fret over trivial matters, and generously assist others in times of difficulty.
12. Approach evil with pity but without sympathy.
13. Be humble in all things.
14. Accept the differences among individuals.
In terms of mindset:
1. Approach everything with a joyful and optimistic attitude. Maintain inner peace, for in this world, a person's purpose is generally to seek joy. If you worry over trivial matters, it diminishes the value of your happiness.
2. Observe the world with sadness and compassion, so that you may ultimately find joy.
3. Persevere in all things and do not fear hardship.
4. Avoid harboring ill intentions and always consider what is beneficial to others.
5. Avoid getting angry easily; make your anger worthwhile.
6. Avoid envy and learn from others' strengths while improving on your own weaknesses.
7. Simply believe in your destiny, as there are no situations that truly warrant worry. Your worry cannot change the world in the slightest.
8. You can pursue tasks without excessive concern because you will not end up in mortal danger. Be courageous and disregard the consequences.
9. Ensure your actions align with your thoughts to avoid bringing shame upon yourself.
The length of ten years depends on one's vision and aspirations. If your vision is expansive, ten years may be insufficient. But one thing is certain: these ten years are the culmination of my past ten years' accomplishments and serve as the foundation for the next ten years. I hope you keep them in mind during uncertain times. Wishing you a prosperous and fortunate journey from my twentieth to thirtieth year.
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> ## 對自己二十歲生日的祝福
> 這是二十年歲生日前一日的凌晨二時正，家人都睡著了，而我在床上思考著人生，為了給我明日生日有個祝福。老實說，以往的生日都是隨隨便便地許願，如果我是日本人，理應我二十歲被當作成年，要行成人式了。不知為何，我突然想著，應該有些特別才是。
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> 就把人生十年為界，我已走了人生的兩個階段。在過去的十年，我由小學升中學，中學升大學，我得到了一些技能、知識、個人修養、人際關係和經驗。而踏入二十歲，我也設想了未來十年將發生在我身上的事。我會認真對待學業和工作，我會大學畢業，我會獨立，我會找工作，我會離開我的出身地？我會離開我的父母和我認識的人？我會遇上跟我相遇相知的人？我會有好的人際關係？我會保持現在的理想嗎？還是做個隨波逐流的人？不得不認真思考我想成為一個怎樣的人，和如何成為。所以與其說是祝福，可能忠告更加合適⋯⋯
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> 往後的十年，你要：
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> 在處事上：
> 1. 捨棄皆日的幼稚，成為更成熟的人。
> 2. 始終要完成的事盡早完成，重要的事情要先做。
> 3. 做好需要做的事，再做想做的事。
> 4. 做事要少言務實，寧願靜觀其變，不要多言和愛出風頭。
> 5. 捨棄懶惰，珍惜時間。
> 6. 提升效率，用省來的時間修正，好過做工過慢影響心態。
> 7. 做事要認真盡力，不要給自己未來後悔。
> 8. 不明白的事情要找老師，總好過把問題留給愚昧的自己。
> 9. 凡事循序漸進，不急於一時。
> 10. 耐心等待命運，也要細心觀察機會。
> 11. 做事要謹慎，多自我檢討和改進。
> 12. 不要做卑劣的事，若問自己，自己不能光明磊落地說出，最好不要做。
> 13. 不做有損他人的事情，要做對人們有益的事情。
> 14. 做事要有節制，要有紀律。
> 15. 多看書，少做無益之事。
> 16. Do thing useful and meaningful.
> 17. Learn to be indifferent to something make no difference.
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> 在待人接物上：
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> 1. 多近賢人，少近愚昧人。
> 2. 多近仁人，少近偽君子。
> 3. 若你有上司，要專心仕奉，直至他叫你不用來為止；若你有下屬，要以仁德相待，直至他們離開你為止。
> 4. 待人總要推心置腹，得一知己，勝過百所謂朋友。
> 5. 待己以嚴，待人以寬。
> 6. 總要自身做好，才去指責他人。
> 7. 謹言慎行。
> 8. 待人以愛，總要仁慈，公正，包容，理解。
> 9. 給人機會，給自己機會。
> 10. 對他人和自己的無力改變，總要理解和憐憫，不是單一的鄙視和排斥。
> 11. 無傷大雅的事，不要計較，若他人有難處，總要慷慨。
> 12. 對惡要抱憐憫，但不帶有體諒。
> 13. 凡事謙虛。
> 14. 接受不同個體的差異。
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> 在心態上：
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> 1. 凡事開心樂觀，心境要平和，因人在此世，總以喜樂為目的，人若為小事煩惱，則其喜樂的價值不足小事。
> 2. 總要用悲傷和憐憫觀察世界，叫你最後得喜樂。
> 3. 凡事堅忍，不要怕吃苦。
> 4. 不要帶有惡意，總要用對人有益的角度。
> 5. 不要輕易憤怒，要令你的生氣有價值。
> 6. 不要嫉妒，要學習他人的優點，也要改善自己的缺點。
> 7. 只需要相信自己的命運，世上沒有事情真正需要擔憂，你的擔憂改變不了世界分毫。
> 8. 做事大可無顧慮，因為總不至死亡，要勇敢，不計較後果。
> 9. 行為與思想總要相稱，免得叫自己蒙羞。
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> 十年的長短視乎一個人的目光和志向，若目光遠大，十年可能完全不足夠。但一點是公平，就是這十年是我過去十年所得的成果，也是為再將來的十年鋪路。願你在這些日子時刻緊記，在迷惘的時候拿出來看。祝我二十歲至三十歲，武運昌隆。